Barbara and Allan Pease (Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps) found that if women want to talk to men, they must understand the men’s M.O. Men are competitive and aggressive in their conversations. Every word counts. Men are conversational bottom liners. Leave out the fluff, get to the point. Women can multi-task conversations. Men are single-task talkers. Brain scans prove it.
And men hate to be interrupted. They found that when two men are talking with each other, rarely will they interrupt one another. (Chris Matthews is the #1 exception.) However, when men are talking with women (sorry ladies – this is not fair but true), they’ll interrupt the women 76% of the time. “Hurry up!” their mind is screaming.
The lesson for women in business? Don’t interrupt the man, be precise with your words, and get to the point with as few words as possible. The lesson for men? Stop interrupting. Give them time to get there. They will. Eventually.
Urgent Care required: Men and women are polar opposites when communicating with each other. Fail to adjust the way you communicate or your message is DOA.